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Ask a Trainer: A Friend for a New Feline

Q. I recently acquired a male, neutered cat, who is about 3 years old. He lived indoors all the time, his first two years with a sibling. They were separated when the owner passed away, then fostered. I’m the third owner in a month now. He is a gentle lapsitter, content to be in his room, looking out the window. I am contemplating getting him a companion. What’s your suggestion? Same age or a younger cat? Male or female? Breed? (He is a domestic shorthair, tuxedo.) – Thanks, C.

A: Thank you for opening up your home to a cat in need, C.!

It sounds as if he’s had a fair amount of change in his life in a short time. My personal recommendation is to wait at least a few months before you get a second cat as a companion. Cats don’t always get along with each other. A new cat might be an extra stress, which could be the last thing he needs on top of the losses he’s experienced. Instead I’d encourage you to focus on learning more about his personality, figuring out his preferences, and building your bond with him.

When and if you do decide to get him a companion, temperament is the most important factor to consider for an ideal pairing. Should he remain a gentle lap cat, I’d recommend looking for another mellow and affectionate cat. If you know the personality of his sibling, you could look for a similar cat. Other considerations are to opt for a cat who is around the same age and size. Breed and sex shouldn’t matter as long as the cats have similar personalities and play styles.

About the Trainer

Logo: Allison Helps Cats - Cat Behavior Consultant & Trainer

Allison Hunter-Frederick is a Certified Cat Behavior Consultant and Trainer. She is also the mother of three fur kids and several revolving foster cats, host mom to international exchange students, and wife of a supportive husband. Through her business Allison Helps Cats LLC, she uses her knowledge of cats to help cat owners and animal shelters with their cat behavior needs.

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